Gabe Monett, LMSW

Many of my clients come to therapy feeling like patterns in their lives keep repeating themselves. Their emotions rise quickly and they react before they have time to pause. They often describe knowing afterward what they wish they had said or done differently, but they struggle to practice it in the moment. This can leave people feeling frustrated, tired, or disconnected from the way they want to show up.

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I work with my clients to help them develop tools to manage difficult emotions and better navigate these situations. I work with many clients who struggle with regulating their emotions, including folks with Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as clients with OCD. I particularly enjoy working with couples, including LGBTQIA+ couples and those in non-traditional relationships.

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I regularly reflect on sessions after they’re over to see what I could have done better. I ask my clients for feedback so we can figure out how to adjust together. I also try to pay attention to the bigger picture: how racism, sexism, homophobia, or other forms of discrimination show up in someone’s everyday life, and how systems or environments might be adding stress.

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In sessions, you can expect us to talk about specific events from the week and use those moments to notice and discover larger behavioral patterns in your life. I often ask clients to break down a situation step by step so we can see what triggered a reaction and what helped or didn’t help. We then experiment with new behaviors or skills for you to try both in session and throughout the week.

 

I have am trained in DBT through Behavioral Tech and provide both comprehensive DBT and DBT-informed therapy. I am also trained in EFT for couples and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD. I’ve practiced mindfulness for about ten years, including several silent retreats where I spent days in seated meditation, walking meditation, and learning from a wide variety of teachers. These experiences taught me to pay close attention to what is happening in my body and mind.
 

Outside of the therapy room, I’m a chess nerd, an urbanist who loves thinking about how cities shape our lives, and a ceramicist who enjoys the challenging but rewarding endeavor of working with clay.